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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Poem: Of sadness and happiness

What makes you feel sad?

When you make hatred your chat,

When you make envy your bread,

When you make your fear your soul mate,

When guilt is your fat,

When anger swallows your flat,

When vengeance becomes your pet,

You will always be in a checkmate.

What makes you happy?

When you give something for free,

When you choose your words carefully,

When you select your thoughts wisely,

When you share yourself with me,

When you pray with falling knees,

When you forgive with glee,

You will always be happy.

Originally WRITTEN by : Mani Jack

Book Review
Title: The Magic of Thinking Big
Writer: David J.Schwartz, Ph.D.
What have I learned from this book?
1.    Believe you can succeed and you will.
a.   Success means many wonderful and positive things.
b.   Faith can move mountains.
c.   Belief triggers the power to do.
d.   Disbelief is negative power.
e.   Believe you are the best, act the best and perform the best.
f.   Believe that you are very important.
g.   Initiative is the answer to your problems.
h.   Don’t use your mind to go against you.
i.     Your mind is a thought factory.
j.    You drive the thoughts either they are negative or positive.
k.   Always say, today is a wonderful day, I am still alive and I am going to create wonderful and great things today.
l.     Success loves those who are prepared.
m.  Always think of success.
n.   Always remind yourself that you are better than you think you are. Never SELL yourself SHORT!!!
o.   Believe big such as big plans and big goals.

2.   Cure yourself of Excusitis, the failure disease. 
a.   Excuses are signs of defeat and failure.
b.   Don’t talk about your health if you want to be healthy.
c.   Worry is the father of bad health.  
d.   Always be grateful for your good health.
e.   Life is meant to be enjoyed.
f.   Do not underestimate your own brain power. Don’t ever look down at yourself.  
g.   Those who are governed by fear will never enjoy the blessings that God has prepared for each of us.
h.   Use your mental power to find solutions instead of using your brain to master the art of whining.
i.     My positive attitude is more important than intelligence.
j.    The ability to think is better than the ability to memorize facts. A copy and paste generation will ruin this country.
k.   Never say you are too OLD to materialize your dreams. Those who say they are old are those who have surrendered themselves to the god of failure.
l.     Your feelings must always be 21 years old.
m.  Don’t be age conscious. Numbers make you sick.
n.   You must know your job well, better than anyone else. 
o.   Good luck is meant for those who are prepared, planned properly and think positively.
3.   Build confidence and destroy fear.
a.   Fear is real and powerful. You have to face your fear and come up with the correct actions in order to reduce or perhaps abolish it. Make a list of things that you fear the most and propose a proper action to cure your fear.
b.   Hope is completely meaningless without action.
c.   Hope needs action to win victories. Those who stay in the mud will be trapped in the mud forever as they are the dreamers.
d.   Work on your personal grooming, give better service, turn worry time to study time, helps others recue their fear through prayers, make sure you know what you are doing and trust your decision.
e.   Deposit only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Poisoning your mind with negative thoughts will result in earliest death.   
f.   Always recall positive and wonderful experiences. Make them bigger than this world in order to help you to be happy.
g.   Count your blessings. Think of everything that you have that others may not have that should trigger the sense of thankfulness in you.
h.   Prevent self-destruction by thinking about positive matters only.
i.     Always look at the good sides of others even though they may treat you badly and cruelly as no one is perfect and everybody has his or her bad day. 
j.    Always try your best to think right and do the right things.
k.   Always take the front seat. Those who take the last seat are those who believe that they are not important. Consequently they will be treated as a very unimportant person.
l.     Practice making eye contact as it gives you confidence and wins you confidence. Eyes can never lie as it is the window of your heart and soul.
m.  Always speak with your mind, but with respect.
n.   Walk faster as it improves your self-confidence, self-respect and health.
o.   Give a big and sincere smile. Nobody likes a fake. A real smile melts a sad heart and soul.
p.   Action cures fear. Fear multiplies when you fail to act.
q.   Know your five chief assets. Work on your strengths and start with proper actions. Focus on your strengths and think of how you can maximize your potential through all of your assets.
r.    When others greet you, always say “I feel great and wonderful”. When you say “I feel bad”, all the time, people will stay away from you because they do not want to be infected by your negativity.
s.    Always use positive language to encourage others. Examples: You can do it. I know you do better than this. This is very impressive.
t.    Compliment people on their appearance, their work, their achievements, and their families.
u.   Look at things as they can be, not as they are. Focus on other’s potential.  
v.    Always add values to your products or services and don’t forget to add value to yourself. Give more than expected in order to build your reputation.   
w.  A great speech is a speech that gives something valuable to the audience as they leave the hall.
x.   Little things and petty thinking cause quarrels. Small things become global things when you allow yourself to dwell into it.
y.   Don’t allow small things, negative thinkers and petty issues to discourage you from achieving your goals.
z.   It is good to respect yourself. However, you need more than that. You really have to appreciate yourself as waiting for the world to appreciate you can lead to self-destruction.
4.   How to think and dream creatively. In order to be creative, you must dare to be different.
a.   When you believe it can be done, your mind will work hard to find solutions.
b.   Prevent the usage of the word IMPOSSIBLE. It belongs to a loser. Those who say impossible are those who silently want you to do it and have the intention to share the credits with you if you can make it possible.
c.   Welcome new ideas and adjust them to your setting.
d.   Always encourage others to talk in order to win friends. People love a great listener.
e.   Ask others about your ideas to win friends.
f.   Concentrate on what others say. Perhaps you miss something.
g.   Join a group that consists of successful people such as Toastmaster Club.
h.   Don’t let ideas escape. Write them down. Great ideas breed masterpiece.
i.     Review your ideas. Do brainstorming in order to help you turn it into a masterpiece.
j.    Cultivate and fertilize your ideas. Great ideas are nothing without constant care and nurture.  
5.   You are what you think you are.
a.   We have to think that we are really important.
b.   The more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you.
c.   Your look has to be very important through proper dress. You like it or not, people always judge others by the way we look.
d.   Do not ask “point-blank question”. Encourage others to think through constructive questions.
e.   You must think that your job is very important.
f.   Be enthusiastic about your job.
g.   Always show positive attitude in order to inspire others to do the same.
h.   Think like important people think. Use words that show that you are very important.

6.   Manage your environment. Go first class. (Friendly File System)
a.   The mind is the most DELICATE, most SENSITIVE instrument in all creation.
b.   Environment shapes, makes us think the way we do.
c.   Only accept negative advice as a challenge to prove that you can do it.
d.   Don’t let negative thinkers hold you back.
e.   Befriend your environment. Don’t make it your enemy.
f.   Go first class in everything you do.
7.   Make your attitude your allies.
a.   To make others like you, you must first like yourself.
b.   To make others like your subject, you must first like your subject.
c.   To make the audience love your topic, you must love your topic.
d.   People do more for you when you make them feel important.
e.   When you help others feel important, you make yourself feel important too.
f.   Practice appreciation. Do not classify people. 
g.   Call people by their names.
h.   Don’t be too proud of your achievement as everyone is involved throughout the success.
i.     Money is power to help the unfortunate.
j.    Money one of the means to living life fully.
k.   Put SERVICE first and money takes care of itself.
8.   Think right toward people.
a.   Learn to remember names as it breeds mutual respect.
b.   Learn to relax. Tense is contagious.
c.   Prevent yourself from being egotistical. People don’t like those who think that they know EVERYTHING.
d.   Practice liking people. Gradually, it becomes your habit as like attracts like.
e.   Always give spiritual strength to people as they will love you more.
f.   Friendship is not for sale. It has to be driven by sincerity.
g.   Don’t forget people’s names so that they will feel important.
h.   Don’t pretend you like somebody.
i.     Give first class treatment to your clients, employees or colleagues, you will get the same quality in return.
j.    Learn to be likeable because like attracts like.
k.   Don’t blame others when you fail. Analyze the mistakes, and start again stronger.  
l.     Listen more if you want to win friends.
m.  Use action to cure fear and build confidence.
n.   Be a doer.
o.   Don’t wait until everything is perfect as it will never be.
p.   Idea is nothing without action.
9.   How to turn defeat into victory.
a.   Defeat is just an illusion. You can also call it man-made disaster.
b.   Self-critical is constructive.
c.   Don’t wait for others to correct you because you have enough information from previous experiences to prevent failure.
d.   Bad luck loves those who are not prepared. In other words, bad luck belongs to those who fail to take necessary actions.
e.   Failure is always a blessing in disguise if you learn to look at it positively.
10.                Use goals to help you grow.
a.   Always think of what you want to achieve 10 years or 20 years from now.
b.   You can only put your heart and soul into something you really DESIRE.
c.   Doing something you don’t like is killing yourself as you are already dead mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
d.   Those who do nothing but eat, sleep and rock are the ones who will never taste the beauty of success.
e.   A goal, or a big GOAL, will trigger your desire to do so many wonderful things that can help you enjoy a better life that you have now.
f.   Goals give you energy and reasons for you to give your very best in everything you do because you know exactly where you are going.

11. How to think like a leader.
a.   Put yourself in other’s shoes in order to win their hearts. Nobody likes to work for a very selfish boss.
b.   Understand the difference between bossing and leading.
c.   Practice humility because you are dealing with imperfect human beings.
d.   When somebody makes mistakes, do not add insult to injury. Select your words carefully. Talk to them privately. Focus on the improvement. Help them by giving practical suggestions on how they can improve their weaknesses. Always compliment them on the good points.
e.   If you treat them with respect and love, they are willing to die for you.
f.   Always praise anyone at every opportunity as it does not cost you a bank.
g.   Focus on improvement and always practice the highest standards. 
h.   Spend some time alone when you face any problems.  Prayers, silence and meditations can really help you to find solutions.
i.     Leading universities require professor to lecture as few as five hours per week so that the professor has time to think. 
j.    Those who are successful are always active and proactive.
k.   Those who want to get rich quick will never be successful.
This is what I get from the book. If you think that this book is important to you, buy one and enjoy yourself reading it. To Mr. David, thank you so much for sharing this great book. May God bless you and your family.

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