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Saturday, May 11, 2013

Inspirational Quotes for You and Me.

I have never seen God who sends all his messengers to this dying world. However, I do believe that God comes to us in the form of love to prevent this world from permanent death. M.J.

The most horrible war on earth is between men and God especially when God refuses to give us what we want. M.J.

The maturity of a society is evaluated based on how they deal with failure. M.J.

Developed countries give the best opportunities, food and shelter to its citizens while developing countries give the worst opportunities, food and shelter to its own citizens. M.J.

As long as the government gives money blindly to its people, we will never become a developed nation. The government has to teach its citizens on how to create something through creativity, innovative and critical thinking that can generate continuous income. Otherwise, our country will sink in debt. M.J.

Vision 2020 will remain as illusion if we fail to embrace originality in everything we do. M.J.

Regret is something that I hate the most. That is the main reason why I always try to give my best in my job and my relationships with the ones I love and hate so that I don’t have to be forever attached to a haunting past. M.J.

One of the main causes of war, conflict or disunity is we always think that our religion is the best, and we thought that we should go to heaven while the non-believers should go to hell. I believe that all religions are the best and perfect, but not the followers. M.J.

Failure is MONEY if you really believe in it and I believe that millionaires and billionaires out there really understand this concept. M.J.

I love failure because I know that failure will make me an EXPERT. M.J.

The fear of being rejected by someone you admire is nothing compared to the relief that you will find out when you tell that person about your feelings because only be telling that person about your feelings only help you understand more about the person you admire. M.J.

The person that I always try to avoid is the person who always tries to change others without changing themselves. M.J.

Permanent FAILURE is defined as a person who is always trying to change others in which deep in their heart, this person hates the person that he or she tries to change. M.J.

Fault-finder is created by parents who are fault-finders. Should we repeat the same mistake when we become parents in the future? If we repeat the same mistake, should we continue putting the blame on our own parents TODAY? M.J.

Satan’s main job is to cultivate the hideous hatred in us while God’s main job is to encourage each of us to love one another because love the reincarnation of God yesterday, today and forever. M.J.

I have never worried about the ones who fail to appreciate everything that I have done for them because for the past 33 years, God has never failed sending new angels in the forms of good men and good women into my life. M.J.

Tiredness and headache are caused by lack of love in doing everything we do and say. M.J.

To be an expert in medical, language, engineering and etc. is nothing because it is more important to be an expert in dealing with our negative emotions. M.J.

A country becomes a living hell when our leaders bury their hearts. M.J.

Our country will forever move backward if those living in rural areas remain naive and poor. M.J.

The richest country is a country in which its citizens have the ability to look at things from many angels. M.J.

If Malaysians wish to be on par with great countries, thinking should be made a subject and a pass in this subject should be made compulsory. M.J.

A child should be taught that everyone is different at a very young age. Otherwise, he or she might think that others should be like them as they grow up. M.J.

If we always take something that is not ours, we will always end up getting something that nobody wants. M.J.

Election in Malaysia will be the best in the world only if everyone is taught about the connection between politic, economy and social. M.J.

The only sign of bad governance is when people in rural areas are not given access to good education. M.J.

Good education is everyone’s right. If we fail to give our citizens the best education that the world has to offer, Malaysia will be the poorest and corrupted country in the world. M.J.

The main reason why people fail to find the right people to become their soul mates is because they fail to find themselves. M.J.

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Monday, February 4, 2013

How to build a Solid friendship

Dedicated to: Form 4 and 5 students 2013 and anyone who treasures friendship.

Originally written by: Mr. Mani Jack / Dayak Thinker

Date: 4th/2/2013

No. Of words: 1487

Title: How to build a solid friendship

          A very good morning I bid to the young minds of tomorrow. Today, I have something special and historical to share with you which is very close to your heart as a teenager entitled “How to build a solid friendship.” Some people say friendship lasts forever. Really? How I wish that people understand that that sentence is said by men, not God because only God has the power on the word “forever”. As a grown up, I have no choice but to redefine the word friendship due to beautiful and ugly circumstances that I have gone through in friendship. I do not believe that friendship lasts forever because changes happen every second in our lives and change does not care whether you like it or not.

          I do believe in friendship but I do not want to expect too much from it because my true friends are myself and God because I am the only one who can comfort  myself with God’s divine intervention when my good friends are not there to accompany me especially when I need them the most due to their multiple commitments. However, I do have some tips for you to build a great friendship. Last but not least, as long as long as I can remember, I always choose to be a good friend because I want one day my good friends to know that I have done my best as a good friend even though they have fallen in love with new subjects which I cannot control as I do not have the ability to foretell the future.

         Allow me to start with similarities as the old saying goes birds with the same feathers flock together. We choose our good friends based on preferences. If he or she is completely opposite to our characters, attitude and belief, I do not think that that friendship will blossom.  We need somebody who can join us in our daily activities. We need somebody who shares the same amount of passion on something such as music, books, hobbies, movies and etc. If we share a lot of similarities, the friendship will grow because it has been nurtured by the same amount of interest. As both of you are compatible with each other, it will be very easy for each of you to empower each other.

          Secondly, we must understand that everyone is born with distinctive purposes. The presence of our good friends today has been carefully designed by God. Obviously, while they are still with us, we ought to give our best as a good friend and enjoy the friendship while it lasts because our good friends and ourselves change courses and directions as we grow up. It has to happen that way because our needs are changing. Nothing is meant to be stagnant. For example, you always want to be a doctor while your friend always wants to be a pilot. Can you imagine all the changes that he or she has to go through in order to realize those dreams? Will you ever know the new individuals that he or she will meet throughout the journey? Nobody has the answer because life itself is a mystery and will always be a colourful journey.

          The third one is the ability to appreciate your friend. To forget or to ignore everything that others have done for us is something that all of us can and always do. Only a few have the courage and wisdom to appreciate others because we are born to rebel without a cause due to our unexplainable curiosity and irritating scepticism  All of us should learn to appreciate because appreciation is almost as beautiful as heaven. To be forgotten by someone can be as hideous as hell.  A gift, a hug, a hi, a letter, an email, a surprise or a beautiful poem can breed the most beautiful smile on your friend’s face because the satisfaction is beyond words. As the old saying goes, a new friendship needs a lot of attention while an old friendship needs a lot of repair. In other words, both should never stop mending the ageing bridge. Both should never give up on each other.

          Fourth, expect nothing from your friend. I know some will expect that friend to be nice forever or to be with them forever.  If you expect everything from your friend, that means you are the most selfish and insincere person on earth. Why should we expect nothing? We should expect nothing because the friendship itself that your friend gives you is something that money can never buy. Be thankful for you have been given a chance to taste the good and dark sides of a friendship. If you expect too much from a friendship, you will suffer because your unreasonable expectation will definitely collide with reality. You friend will always find somebody new and perhaps his wife or her husband will not be too friendly with you because love for the opposite sex is always stronger than a friendship especially to newly-wed couple. Be patient. Do not push your friend because that will keep them away from you. Give your friend some time and space to enjoy the new relationship because one day, when their children have grown up and when loneliness has become their new companion, they will come back to you because no matter how good a husband or a wife is, they can never replace a good friend. Let time do its work. Your constant interruption can worsen your friendship.

          Fifth, do not ever compare yourself with your friends especially your achievement or your failure and things that you have and do not have. Always be thankful for everything that you have and do not allow envy to ruin your friendship. If you fail to achieve what you want in life, you should never put the blame on your friends because you are completely responsible for your own action. Keep your eyes and hearts away from your friends’ glory and properties because that will allow Satan to influence your judgement and action.  Take your friend who is successful as your source of inspiration. Let their success motivate you to work harder. If you feel bad about your friend’s achievement, you really have to restructure your mindset because that will destroy you and your friends. What you need to do is be happy for your friend’s achievement. Be the first to say “Congratulation”.  You should always pray for your friend’s success because that positive prayer or wishes will always come back to you in full. Nobody can go against the law of nature. No matter how bad your friend has become, you should never stop praying to God to help them to change for the better because our prayer is one of the best gifts that we can offer.

          Lastly is about respect. To me respect is quite subjective because we have our own definitions for that word. Let me begin with words that we use to communicate with our friends. How do we address them? Do we use animal name or funny nickname to call our friends? Do we treat them as if they are our servant or obedient dog? Do we treat them as if they have no feelings Good friends normally have a special nickname to address each other such as “Bro”. Another way to respect each other is by preventing anyone from making fun of your friend’s name and physical appearance because as a friend, you have the responsibility to uphold your friend’s good name and reputation. Knowing what your friend hates the most is another way to show that you really respect them. For example, if your friend really treasures his or her privacy, give them a call first before you visit them. Trying to change your friend is another form of disrespect to your friend because nobody likes to change for the sake of others. Another one is never humiliate your friend. Public humiliation can leave the deepest scar in your friend’s heart. Laughing at your friend’s weakness will trigger indescribable hatred and grudge against you. Consequently, good friends become formidable enemies.

          In conclusion, friendship is a relationship that can be developed through mutual understanding, trust and respect but we should never expect too much from it because we do not have the absolute power to keep it forever. Allow me to share with you a beautiful quotation about friendship. Give your friend the freedom to choose and fly because one day they will always come back to you provided you really did your best when you were their good friend. Thank you for reading.   I hope this writing will guide your mind and heart towards a new and positive direction. 

I always love the truth because
the pressure of accepting the truth helps me to be wiser than yesterday. M.J.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Survival tips

1.    WORLD OF ADULT. Once you have graduated, you will enter the world of adult, a world that is full of colours, expectations and etc. As you spent about 3-4 years trying to master the subject that you had chosen, it is time for application. However, the adult world requires more than your first degree. As you enter the adult world, you have no choice but to let go your status as a student who depended on your parents or the government as long as financial assistance is concerned. You have to have the desire to learn to be independent because it is your turn now to please the ones who have helped you. Trying to escape from that responsibility will cause you a lot of disasters because our parents are the sources of our blessings after God.  

2.   THE WORLD BEYOND YOUR FIRST DEGREE. Perhaps some might get a job upon graduation, while some have to struggle very hard looking for their dream job. Your first degree may not help you much in getting the job you desired because God’s plan can be very unpredictable and sometimes can be very annoying. Some might consider it as a blessing in disguise. Reduce your expectation because it might hurt you so much. Look at the river. Try to follow the flow because perhaps there might be something that might pop up throughout the flow to test your capabilities, patience and wisdom.

3.   LIFELONG LEARNING. Some graduates have a very wrong mindset as they believe that they should stop learning as they already have a degree that can support them in the future. This mindset can be very destructive because great companies are looking for graduates who have more than their beautiful first degree. The first thing that they look for is your ability to speak multiple languages because great companies speak good English while small companies speak ordinary language. That really depends on which company that you want to work for. Spending some time reading about the job that you are looking for can really help because you will have a lot of remarkable things to say during the interview. Secondly, they want to know about your attitude. They are not interested in individuals who behave like a king due to the straight A’s on paper because the employer’s expectations can be very different. Therefore, do not be afraid to be different. If everyone is the same, nothing will be created every day. Thirdly, the employers are looking for graduates who can speak their mind. My point is, try your best to be the asset of the company instead of being a liability. In other words, try to be someone who is very important in that company through lifelong learning. Try your best to be extremely very good in your own field. Otherwise, if there is nothing special about you, the employers may quickly show the front door to you. Understand your job through lifelong learning. Stay focus on how you can be very good at it because great companies or great government is interested in individuals who are extraordinary. Another challenge is the senior workers or officers at your workplace. They can either break or make you. Stay with the positive ones, and be patient with the annoying ones because you need at least three years to make yourself very good in your own field. Once you have become an expert, the concept of seniority will disappear because they know that you are as good as them or better than them.

4.   LEARN ABOUT MONEY OR ECONOMY. Most of the time, young graduates can’t wait to buy sports car to please their loved ones. There is nothing wrong with that if you come from a rich family or you have no one that you will support financially especially your siblings. If you come from a poor family, this is what you should do to improve your financial status. On average, the price of a house increases by 20,000-30,000 a year depending on the area. Let say you graduate at the age of 24. As you need a car, try your best to finish paying the car when you reach 30 years old because the banks will carefully look at your pay slip later when you buy a house. If your pay slip is “clean”, you will have a greater chance to have your housing loan approved. However, if you have so many commitments on that pay slip, it is extremely difficult for you to get your housing loan approved.  As the old saying goes, everybody can make money. Only a few can save money. As you graduate, try to make financial independence as your long term objective. There are so many ways to achieve this. One of them is by reading a lot of books about money and personal investment. Don’t be afraid to be rich because you can do a lot of good things if you have a lot of money because love and money should get along well. Love is indeed very important but you need money to express your love. If the world is full of free things, then you don’t need to have money. However, it still depends on your intention, your ability to control your lust and how you want to spend the money. In terms of personal investment, visit any banks and ask them about the options that you have as a personal investor. There are many types of investment out there. Most of the time, people choose the investment that offers risk that they can control or predict such as ASB, ASN, Mutual Fund and etc. Don’t ask me more questions on this because you have to experience the beauty of asking the bankers about personal investment. Do not be afraid to enter the unknown world because the knowledge that you get will help you to help yourself financially and the best part is you can help others too. If you become an expert, you can choose to open up a company. That means you become the boss. Don’t you want to be the boss? Should you be a servant forever if you can be the boss? You make the decision.

5.   MARRIAGE. Most of the time, some people expect too much from their boyfriends and girlfriends due to the perfect examples that they see on television and celebrities magazines. Before we get married, we should ask ourselves what we really want from that marriage. In my case, I always look for happiness and a marriage that is full of blessings. I don’t consider MONEY as my main priority because I believe that the most beautiful woman in this world is a woman who is loyal. I believe that I will lose all of my money and happiness if I marry a woman who is not loyal. Now allow me to continue with the subject. If you expect your boyfriend to be handsome when you yourself are not beautiful, don’t you think it is very unfair? If you expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to be a good listener when you yourself are not interested to listen to anything, don’t you think that it is very unfair? My point is, we should look at ourselves first. In other words, work hard on improving our weaknesses first. Try our best to build all the good characters within us. If we expect our boyfriend or girlfriend to be super perfect, we will never experience happiness. Marriage is not the end of the story. It is a fresh new beginning as you have to let go some of you in order to get along well with your partner. If you are not willing to sacrifice the characters in you that might jeopardize the marriage, please reconsider the thought of getting married. Educate yourself first. Get to know married couple who did well in marriage and asked them about how they keep the fire burning without hurting each other. A marriage that is built based on bad intentions cannot last long. However, if the marriage is built based on love, the couple will enjoy all the blessings from God and they will have the power to face all the challenges in lives because love is their shield. Choose your partner not because of financial security because security cannot be given by men but God. Choose a partner that can help you to improve your weaknesses and use your strengths to improve his or her weaknesses as each of you should learn to empower each other. 

6.   PARENTING SKILLS. Some people get married because others get married. They feel that they are not normal if they don’t get married. Some get pregnant too early due to their failure to really understand the pros and cons of having babies. I understand some will say children are the gift from God. If a child is really a gift, don’t you think that we should be well prepared mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially before the child enters this world? Parenting skills are all about how we should take care of the child and how we should educate the child. In terms of monthly spending, we need to spend at least RM 250.00 for a child. Therefore, it is very important to study our income. If it is not enough, and we really want to have a child, do some part-time work to improve your economy because parents should give FULL ATTENTION to their children especially when they are still a kid. Some people take it easy by allowing their husband or wife to feed the kid with condensed milk, soy bean, tea, coffee, sweet or junk food. If we want the best from our children, we should learn to give the best too. Otherwise, it will always be a win-lose deal. Children should be fed with milk until they are at least 12 years old. If we feed them with coffee or tea, that will affect their physical growth. If you wish to know more about this, the information is a click away. Some parents always say that, “we will teach them to read later because they are still too young and delicate”. Consequently, the interest to read will disappear because the children have not been encouraged to read at a very young age. If we want our children to love reading, we have to be an avid reader first because the children do not really listen to what we say because they are actually observing what we do every day. Let me put it this way. Ask yourself this question. Do you want your kids to be smarter or more successful than you are or otherwise? If you think you have all the money in this world to finance them for as long as they live, go ahead then. I wish you all the best. However, if you understand the fact that money can’t last forever, focus on good education and good nutrition. Nothing is perfect but it is our main obligation to give our best despite our long list of weaknesses.
In conclusion, life upon graduation can be the best moments in our lives. However, it really depends on how we respond to all the expected and unexpected circumstances that greet us through the journey of knowing ourselves. Please don’t think that I am a perfect person when I wrote this article. I am just sharing everything that others have shared with me and everything that I have learned through personal experiences. I am not perfect. I am just trying my best to give the best because that is the only thing that I can do because I was born as a human being. Good luck. Thank you so much for reading.

Originally written by: Mani Jack

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

How to improve our education system? 
(Part One)

1.       Be affirmative. If we think too much about what others say about our education system, I don’t think we will progress because those who propose may not know our history. We have to be firm with our decision. We are the best persons to decide on the best solutions. It is good to listen to others. However, do we really know about their intention? Perhaps they are trying to destroy our children. For example, we are going to  abolish PMR soon. Is this the best decision? In my point of view, if the students’ lives in school are not challenged, I don’t think they can face all the unbearable challenges as they leave the school. We have to get them to experience the beauty of struggle and failure before we release them into the unknown world. What we need in our education now is the leaders to lead with LOVE, the teachers to teach with LOVE, the students to learn with LOVE and the parents to support with LOVE instead of MACHINE GUNS.

2.       Understand the concept of giving the best when we give the best. If we want our education system to be one of the best in the world or perhaps the best in the world, we have to put ourselves in the teacher’s and student’s shoes. On the teacher’s part, we must understand that effective teaching cannot happen in a classroom if there are more than 30 students in a classroom. There are teachers who have to teach 50 students in a classroom.  If we can build other great and gigantic buildings in our country, why can’t we build schools which are big enough for our children? On the student’s part, if we want them to do well in school, assist them well especially financial and emotional support because they are children. They are not independent enough to be financially and emotionally independent. Furthermore, even some adult fail in these two areas. For the weak classes, the number of students is not supposed to be more than 7. The best is one on one consultation because the weak students are suffering from low inferiority.

3.       Study the effects of seniority. One of the dark sides of seniority is the high rank officers are selected based on seniority. It is not based on credibility, characters and popularity because the promotion is done based on the number of important persons that you know. I suggest that we choose an education officer and the education director based on democracy. We get all teachers and non-teaching staff to choose the best individuals to be the education director, deputies and etc. because teachers and non-teaching staff need a leader who practices servant leadership. We want a leader who is fair, caring, and supportive. If the leader is caring, the teachers will be caring. If the teachers are caring, the students will be caring. When the students are caring, eventually we will have a CARING SOCIETY. Good leadership is very important. Please get the LITTLE NAPOLEON out of the education system.

4.       Study the teacher’s pressure. One of them is, why should husband and wife be separated from each other for years? Teachers are born as human beings. Human beings mean they have feelings. If they are not happy, can teachers create a happy environment in a classroom? If they are far apart, the tendency to be involved in adultery is extremely high. Are we silently encouraging them to practice adultery? The second one is, some teachers spent about 3 to 4 years learning about a subject that they are going to teach in school. Sadly, as they are assigned to their first school, they are forced to teach other subjects which are basically unknown to them. Who will suffer? The teachers and the students will suffer mentally and emotionally as both know very little about the subject. Obviously, the students and the teachers will lose a lot of precious time because the blind is leading the blind. If the teachers are not happy, can the teacher create a happy environment for the students? What is our objective? Is it to make the teachers and students crazy, mad or happy? We have to encourage teachers, students and everyone about the importance of having a balanced life. If we work 24 hours a day, we will enjoy sudden death and nobody will care about our loved ones. Reduce the workload because teachers need time to reflect on what he or she has done in a classroom. Teaching is not all about teaching as teaching is about listening, thinking, reflecting, planning and many more. Please try to understand this deadly pressure. If teachers do not enjoy teaching, can they give their best to your children? Pressure is good but unnecessary pressure or WORRY can really destroy each of us. You cannot see the teacher’s sweat because the sweat is within.

5.       Be fair. Each leader has all the information about his or her subordinates. As you have the all the information, you know who has not received the EXCELLENT AWARD and otherwise. Be fair. Give it to those who have not received it because there must be something special about everybody. Do as God says because God gives RAIN and SUNNY DAYS to everyone regardless of what they do or their background. Recognize them in BLACK and WHITE. Don’t just say it. Write it!

6.       Treat teachers as teachers. What I am trying to say is that teachers have become modern ULTRAMAN today. Why do I say so? Now we have CIVIC EDUCATION. How about religious and moral subjects? Are they not enough? Parents are the ones who should teach the children more about morality, religion and civic education AT HOME. If parents do not teach them about being POLITE, POSITIVE, GRATEFUL, HYGENIC, THOUGHTFUL, RESPONSIBLE and etc. the teacher has to start from zero again as he or she will have to spend a lot of valuable time correcting their manners, mindset, self-discipline, characters and etc. SOME STUDENTS ALSO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO SAY THANK YOU. Parents should STOP giving all their responsibilities to teachers. Teachers are also treated as the parent’s private doctor, secretary or nurse. Can teachers become everything to your children? All the teachers need is your support and understanding if you fail as parents. Do not condemn the teachers if parents themselves fail to educate their own children. Good parents will not depend too much on what the teachers give to their children. They themselves will spend their own quality time with their children at home.

Thank you for reading..

To be continued…….
Originally written by Mani Jack.